You Can Choose It Or You Can Run Away

"Do you mind if I ask you a question?"


"Tell me how you learned to be a leader."

"It isn't something I chose."

"But how did you learn what to do?"

"Like everything else, it's trial and error."

"Did you take some kind of training class?"


"No really, tell me."

"I am telling you. You learn by screwing up."

"Yeah, but everybody says that."

"Look, they say that because it's true."

"Well did you ever feel like giving up, then?"

"All the time. Constantly."

"You mean right now?"

"Are you kidding? If I could retire and paint watercolors all day, of course I would."

"I don't understand. So it's a money thing?"

"Well of course."

"So you've gotten this good as a survival skill."


"I don't know."

"What do you mean, you don't know."

"I mean, Dannielle, that I can't tell you."

"Surely you must have something more you can give me. Help me, I'm trying to learn."

"I really can't."

"What do you mean?"

"I mean there is no answer. You just keep going, that's all."

"But you could have chosen another path."


"But you didn't."

"You either choose it or you run away. That's it."

"That's it?"

"Do or do not, like Yoda said. There is no other way."


All opinions my own. Photo by thinkpublic via Flickr (Creative Commons).


Dr. Dannielle Blumenthal is an author, independent brand researcher, and adjunct marketing professor with 20 years of varied experience. An avid researcher and prolific, creative writer, Dr. Blumenthal's interests span communication, marketing, qualitative media content analysis, political rhetoric, propaganda, leadership, management, organizational development, and more. An engaged citizen, she has for several years worked to raise awareness around child sex trafficking and the dangers of corruption at @drdannielle on Twitter. You can find her articles at Medium, and, and she frequently answers questions on Quora. All opinions are Dr. Blumenthal's own.