Leadership Is In The Eyes

When you have to judge the authenticity of a leader, you focus on the eyes.

Ears are not a good filter. Because they're too susceptible to lies.

Consider: We live in a highly controlled world. From what I can tell, the vast majority of people have been warned, threatened, intimidated, and even outright coerced to say exactly what they're supposed to say, at exactly the right moment, so that they get (or at least don't lose) their degrees, our jobs, and even their significant others.

That means that many people will say anything to get what they want.

And it is easy to get fooled by them.

However, also in my experience, it is hard to lie with your eyes.

Your eyes tell me if you are lying, evading, shadowboxing, and yes, sometimes, disturbed.

Sometimes it is actually possible to watch a thought flit across somebody else's mind, as they censor themselves from speaking the words they simply do not feel allowed to say.

The other day I had the experience of looking right into a leader's eyes, as they explained why they do what they do: "I can't not fight for them."

And in one moment, I knew damn well it was true.

When you are a leader of people, they put you to all kinds of tests. Some look at your credentials; others at your command of the subject matter at hand; still others at your experience.

But one thing all people look at, across the board, is your sincerity. We look into your eyes.

The eyes establish first and foremost whether the rest is worth following.

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Posted January 13, 2018 by Dr. Dannielle (Dossy) Blumenthal. All opinions are the author's own. This post is hereby released into the public domain. Photo by pixel2013 via Pixabay (CC0 Creative Commons)

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Dr. Dannielle Blumenthal is an author, independent brand researcher, and adjunct marketing professor with 20 years of varied experience. An avid researcher and prolific, creative writer, Dr. Blumenthal's interests span communication, marketing, qualitative media content analysis, political rhetoric, propaganda, leadership, management, organizational development, and more. An engaged citizen, she has for several years worked to raise awareness around child sex trafficking and the dangers of corruption at @drdannielle on Twitter. You can find her articles at Medium, www.AllThingsBrand.com and www.DannielleBlumenthal.com, and she frequently answers questions on Quora. All opinions are Dr. Blumenthal's own.