Friday, March 20, 2015

What Is So Shocking...


Have you ever noticed that some people tend to find things "shocking?"

* That outfit - "shocking."

* That opinion - "shocking."

* The way things went at that (insert occasion) - "shocking, shocking, indeed!"

And yet there are others who never seem shocked at all. No matter what happens, no matter what you throw at them. Always calm, cool and collected.

What is the difference between the two?

In my experience, the "shockable" types tend to fall into one or more of these categories:

- Easily angered
- Insecure 
- Dramatic
- Passionate about their "cause"
- Power-oriented
- Highly engaged
- Intuitive, sensitive
- Traditional values
- Literal, black-and-white thinking style 
- Change-averse

Super-calm types, on the other hand, tend toward any or all of the following characteristics:

- Tolerant
- Diplomatic
- Disengaged
- Laid-back
- Politically savvy
- Emotionally intelligent
- Astute observer
- Analytical, rational
- Highly educated
- Experienced, mature

Ultimately, neither is better or worse than the other. But they are each distinct, and sometimes the misunderstandings on both sides can cause conflict.

Often it's not possible to resolve personality differences. But if you stand back and look at things objectively, you can see that most traits simply are what they are. 

We're much better off accepting people, and if we can, celebrating their uniqueness.

Of course the ideal is to figure out what people do best, and then give them a way to do it.

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