It's OK To Speak Up For Women, and Men

(Note: This is an updated version of an earlier post.)

For the longest time I wanted to be a good girl. Meaning, not a feminist.

Then I heard about a lot of things "nice people" went through. I didn't want to hear about those.

Sexual assault, rape.

Domestic violence.


Mental illness.

Poor medical care.

I learned that the squeaky wheel gets the grease. That women who speak up are better off than those who are quiet.

It is better to be assertive and have people call you names, than mousy and be taken advantage of.

This is especially true if you're a woman working in tech. People aren't out to be sexist necessarily, but there's a lot of machismo (warning: disturbing) in the profession. 

What's happening now, that is wonderful, is that both women and men are speaking up about the ways in which they experience gender insensitivity and outright oppression.

It's not about freeing half the sky, about sharing the sky together.

* All opinions my own.